45 Examples of ‘Nice Girls,’ Female Equivalent of the Toxic ‘Nice Guys’

40+ Examples of ‘Nice Girls,’ Female Equivalent of the Toxic ‘Nice Guys’

Every woman who has interacted with a man has probably had a nice guy in her messages or DMs. Toxic ‘nice guys’ will usually pretend to be nice and expect a reward for it, and sometimes they’ll get annoyed or angry when things don’t go their way. People might think this is just a male thing, but surprise, women do it too! Here are 40+ instances of ‘Nice Girls.’

Upper-Class Snob

This confession post from this Facebook group shows a ‘nice girl’ putting down her own boyfriend. She begins her post by saying that she and her boyfriend are not the same financially and that it’s starting to bother her.

Upper-Class Snob

Surprisingly, it doesn’t even seem like her boyfriend is too poor, given he owns two properties, but it’s nothing compared to her family’s seven. Her rant ends with the complaint that he doesn’t spoil her as she wants. We hope he sees this and they break up!

Confusing Conundrums

A lot of girls were told when they were younger that if boys were mean to them, it probably meant that they liked them. Those same girls took that thinking and applied it to see if men would stick around if they played their game right back at them.

Confusing Conundrums

Unfortunately, this ‘nice girl’ tried out this thinking and it didn’t go according to plan. When a guy asked her out, she said no and wondered why he didn’t try again. This response tries to let her know how flawed her thinking is.

Not Meeting Halfway

A lot of women will have high expectations for a first date. Usually, women expect men to pay in full on the first date, and it’s typical for men to pick up their date. It shows that they’ve gone to some effort, however, it should be noted these are only expectations and not the strict rules of dating.

Not Meeting Halfway

However, when this girl was asked if she would be willing to drive out towards the guy’s way, she automatically declined and made a baseless assumption. Maybe he dodged a bullet!

A Working Guy

Most companies will forbid employees from being on their phones while they’re on shift. In fact, if employees are caught on their phones, even if they’re just checking the time, they’ll most likely be given a written warning, or even fired if it isn’t the first time.

A Working Guy

This guy alerted this ‘nice girl’ that he wouldn’t be replying due to the fact he was working, and she reacted pretty poorly. She clearly didn’t care that he had to work to afford his bills, which is a clear red flag!

Always Watching You

In a healthy relationship, having a bit of personal space and time away from each other is a great thing. A couple doesn’t always need to be joined at the hip! This gal’s reaction to her boyfriend taking time away from texting her is quite concerning.

Always Watching You

After noticing he was on Discord and not replying to her, this girl lashed out. After not believing that he had just seen her texts, she ended their relationship because she was “over all of this.” Yikes!

Potential Cheater

Whenever we think of a cheater, our minds may automatically go to a man given that there’s a perception that men cheat. However, a lot of ‘nice girls’ will take to social media apps like Twitter and Facebook to complain about the things that make them want to cheat.

Potential Cheater

In this tweet, the woman is criticizing her boyfriend for his sentimental message where he admitted to her that he wanted to make her his wife. Her response was that it was too much emotion and made her want to cheat. What?

Just to Hook-Up

Again, we normally have the perception that men are the ones who hit up women looking for quick hook-ups without commitment. However, women are just as likely to send texts like this — just look at the example below!

Just a Hook-Up

The guy had just gotten out of what seemed like quite a serious relationship, and within a week, this ‘nice girl’ had hit him up looking to hook up. When she was rejected because he put himself first, she lashed out by saying that he should ‘keep being depressed’ — that’s quite a statement!

Mixed Messages

We think that this next ‘nice girl’ might have confused herself during this message exchange. She had slid into his DMs first, thanking him for liking her most recent picture. She then decided to tell him that he’s fit, or attractive for all of those who don’t watch Love Island.

Mixed Messages

Despite this guy not really engaging with the conversation, and thanking her for her compliment, she messaged saying she had a boyfriend. We think that she just wanted an excuse to show off the fact that she has a boyfriend!

Uglies Need Not Apply

We’re sure most women don’t appreciate random men sending them friend requests and messages out of the blue. However, there’s probably a better way to deal with it than this. This particular ‘nice girl’ took to Facebook to convey her thoughts.

Uglies Need Not Apply

She basically said that if you’re ugly, you’re nowhere near good enough for her and that you should delete your entire account to save yourself the embarrassment. Wow. That feels a little harsh, especially for people who might already feel insecure!

Brand New Excuses

This conversation took place on Tinder, an app where people typically swipe right on people they find attractive and start-up conversation. However, once rejected, this woman tried to say that she didn’t match with this person to date them. So, what did she use the dating app for?

Brand New Excuses

According to the user who posted this conversation on Reddit, this woman started to engage in a conversation where she was supporting bizarre conspiracy theories. Frustrated, the man politely denied talking further. A good choice!

The Blocking Game

When you point out the flaws of a ‘nice girl,’ more than likely she will block you before you can engage any further. For some people, that’s probably for the best. However, you should be careful as you’ll probably find yourself unblocked within a few hours or days.

The Blocking Game

When this girl unblocked her ex-boyfriend, he started messaging her asking for her to stop using his Netflix account. She initially denied it, but when he didn’t back down, she just simply stated she was blocking him again.

Unrealistic Expectations

While Tinder and Bumble are two dating apps, how they’re used are completely different. While on Tinder, two people who swiped right on each other can match. On Bumble, only the girl can message first. This is really something else.

Unrealistic Expectations

This ‘nice girl’ has a list of demands for her ‘most interesting’ match — including the fact that this person shouldn’t have any kids, and they should be able to come up with a message that doesn’t start with “hey.” Still, she likes to consider herself drama-free and nice, which is a little ironic if you ask us!

Crazy Cat Guy

This post once again shows how people don’t have to meet certain stereotypes. While most women will probably be labeled crazy cat ladies, this guy loves his cat so much that his girlfriend has noticed. However, it seems like she’s actually jealous.

Crazy Cat Guy

In this Facebook group, she rants about how he’s affectionate towards the cat instead of her, even calling the cat ‘his girl.’ However, as the above commenter states, she might want to take a deep breath considering that she’s jealous of, ya know, a cat.

Letting Down Easy

Sometimes dates just don’t work out, and that’s ok! It’s best if you let the person know as soon as you feel like it’s not going to work out just so they’re let down easy — they might feel the exact same.

Letting Down Easy

This girl let the guy she was seeing know that she didn’t feel a spark, and once the guy replied saying he felt the same, she really showed her true colors. After insulting this guy and insinuating he only said that because she said it first, it’s probably for the best.

Mental Gymnastics

Some people will really do mental gymnastics to prove their point — they’re stretch the point or do a lot of tumbles to arrive at a conclusion that doesn’t even come close to reality. This next ‘nice girl’ really does prove that point.

Mental Gymnastics

While this tweet was probably supposed to be a joke, it suggests that the word cheat is spelled that way because c (he) is (at) another girl’s house. Suggesting that all men cheat is another exaggeration that doesn’t really help her point either…

That’s How Sleeping Works

Most of us will be on our phones throughout our free time. Some of us might wake up and scroll on our phones before getting ready and going to work. During lunch breaks, people are probably scrolling to see what they missed and when they get home, the same thing.

That’s How Sleeping Works

Sleeping seems to be the only time we’re not on our phones, unless that’s what your dream is about. Regardless, this ‘nice girl’ got angry with her man when he didn’t reply, but it was only because he was asleep.

A Classic Accident

Whenever we’re sick, we often don’t want people around us because we feel really gross and don’t want to appear weak around others. So, whenever this guy declined the offer of a lost connection taking him on a date, she wasn’t pleased.

A Classic Accident

Instead of being sympathetic, she lashed out at the thought of being rejected. She said that not only is he ugly, but she hopes that his leg doesn’t get better. We’re sure that if she had asked in a few weeks, he probably would have said yes!

Girl to Girl

Most girls may fear the message on Instagram or Facebook from another girl who’s letting them know their boyfriend cheating on them with her. However, when this girl slid into this other girl’s DMs, it was for a very different reason.

Girl to Girl

As her boyfriend had been liking the other girl’s pictures, she asked her to block him. When the girl agreed, the girl made accusations about her boyfriend dating her before and said that she shouldn’t post photos with cleavage as it’s unfair on other girls with boyfriends. Yikes!

Nice Girls Finish Last

The typical phrase used by toxic nice guys is “nice guys finish last,” usually implying that they were last-choice in comparison to other guys. However, this phrase has been adopted by the same toxic ‘nice girls.’

Nice Girls Finish Last

We can see in this exchange that not only does the original poster believe that ‘nice girls’ and guys finish last, but there are also other people in the comments agreeing with her. This is a very toxic mindset to have!

Don’t Go to Bed

The goodnight text is always an awkward text to send to your significant other. Some may send it just a bit too early and then find themselves scrolling on Twitter or TikTok for another hour or two much to their partner’s dissatisfaction.

Don’t Go to Bed

However, this ‘nice girl’ probably took it to the extreme. After her partner said goodnight, she went off on a rant claiming that he didn’t care about her anymore, despite the fact she told him to go to bed in the first place.

Fishing for Compliments

Even when they’re getting rejected, some ‘nice girls’ will fish for compliments so that their ego doesn’t get even more hurt. They’ll often say that people are rejecting them because they’re fat and ugly, looking for individuals to call them skinny and pretty, like this girl.

Fishing for Compliments

After hitting up this guy and learning he had a girlfriend, this girl switched up very quickly. She started saying that she was rejected because she was fat and ugly, despite the fact it was because he was already seeing someone else.

Making Excuses

There’s no excuse for someone to cheat on someone else. If they want to be with someone else other than their partner, they simply should just be single! However, this ‘nice girl’ is trying to make excuses for women cheating and blaming it on men.

Making Excuses

This ‘nice girl’ states that a woman has probably cheated because her partner lacked something that she found in someone else. Maybe instead of blaming it on the man, the couple should probably communicate and find out what’s missing.

Made-Up Relationships

A lot of girls will probably dream about made-up relationships in their head, however, this is mainly because they’re with fictional characters. It’s definitely dangerous thinking to let fake scenarios in your head affect reality like this next ‘nice girl.’

Made-Up Relationships

In the middle of a fight, this guy asked why this girl had such an interest in friends or relatives she had never met before. She then revealed she was worried in case he was cheating on her, but they weren’t even dating in the first place.

Can’t Be Tamed

This next ‘nice girl’ doesn’t seem to know what exactly she wants, but she wants the freedom anyway to pursue it. Earlier in the conversation, according to the original poster of this conversation, they were talking about ideal partners and this girl revealed that she wants a man who doesn’t get jealous.

Can’t Be Tamed

However, a few texts later, she then revealed that in actuality, she liked men who are overprotective and jealous. This completely contradicts what she had said a few minutes before. Women really can be confusing!

Spamming the Inbox

There’s nothing worse than someone spamming your inbox. The notifications alone are enough to drive us crazy, but having to do tasks while someone is spamming is one of the most irritating things someone can do — especially if it’s your own partner.

Spamming the Inbox

This is only a snippet of what this person’s girlfriend was sending them according to Reddit. After sending their partner a ton of messages, and after they didn’t respond, this so-called ‘nice girl’ called them fat and said they were blocking them. Probably for the best!

We’ve all seen those YouTube videos where parents destroy their kid’s gaming setups as a prank, or as a way of showing them that they had actually bought them a new console altogether. However, this one is far from a prank.

Pure Evil

This girl posted on Instagram showing how she had broken her boyfriend’s copy of Fallout 4 because he had been ignoring her. While she says it’s cruel to pick a game over your girlfriend, it’s equally as cruel — and a crime — to break other people’s possessions.

Wife Material

Red flags are usually easy to spot before you start dating someone. It could be that they’re rude to waiters or waitresses, or they forget about dates you already had planned. However, a big one is if they complain about being single — it’s probably for a good reason!

Wife Material

This post — which was originally posted on an anonymous website, Whisper — states that it’s hard work for a woman to be attractive and wife material because everyone wants you, but nobody wants you right now. Or maybe it’s just because of your personality!

Won’t Move On

This ‘nice girl’ had gotten this guy’s number from one of his friends, however, the friend obviously wasn’t close enough to them to know that they were already dating someone. After learning this, this girl didn’t take the news very well.

Won’t Move On

After the guy inquired about whether it was his supposed friend that put them up to this, the girl got defensive and even started to insult the girl the guy was currently dating. These types of women belong in the trash!

Unread Messages

The Reddit user who posted this interaction had said they had only put their phone down for two minutes and within that time, came back to 23 unread messages from this ‘nice girl.’ The worst part? They weren’t even dating, nor did they know each other that well!

Unread Messages

The girl sent individual letters at one stage asking Jermaine where he was when all he had done was go to the bathroom. We hope that, after this interaction, he blocked this girl on messenger just to save himself the hassle.

A Pity Date

You can usually tell a ‘nice girl’ from a toxic ‘nice girl’ from the way they reply to rejections. Normal ‘nice girls’ will apologize, whereas toxic ‘nice girls’ will resort to insults and pretend they weren’t interested in the first place.

A Pity Date

After this girl hit up this guy looking for a date and learning he was already taken, she started to say that it was a pity date more than anything. She also said that he was delusional for thinking she would be interested in him, even though she asked first. Awkward.

Staying Faithful

Even though this tweet isn’t exactly a typical ‘nice girl’ post, it still shows that some ‘nice girls’ end up being hypocrites and should probably practice what they preach some more. This girl posted a tweet saying that being faithful in a relationship should be the norm.

Staying Faithful

However, it’s the reply from her ex-boyfriend’s friend that exposes her as a cheater! While there was no follow-up conversation, we’re pretty sure that after she was called out, the original tweet was taken down.

Just Being Honest

Out of context, this email from a ‘nice girl’ may come across as someone who’s self-aware and knows their actions are wrong. However, the Reddit user explained that he had received this email from their wife after he discovered she was cheating on him throughout their marriage.

Just Being Honest

It wasn’t just the one affair she was having, she admitted to having nine affairs total throughout their relationship. Instead of her asking for clarity, she should probably reflect on her own actions and she’ll find the answer there!

Not Body Positive

The body positivity movement, created by black women, was meant to empower men and women who were typically bigger so that they could see themselves as beautiful. However, many toxic girls do not believe in the body positivity movement and seemed quite confused by its aims.

Not Body Positive

On this YouTube video of this man showing off his body after a few months of weight loss, this ‘nice girl’ gave this pretty back-handed compliment. She’s projecting her own insecurities onto this man’s partner without even knowing her preferences, such a shame!

Guilt Tripping

As previously mentioned, on Bumble, the girl has to message first. This way, they feel in control of a situation and don’t get creepy men spamming her with messages. However, girls can be just as toxic as guys on this app.

Guilt Tripping

Over the course of a few days, this woman was messaging this guy before he responded saying that he was currently seeing someone. While she should have left her message after the first reply, she then goes on to suggest a date and says she’s sorry she wasn’t worth it. Ugh.

She’s Not Toxic

One known characteristic of someone who’s toxic is not admitting when their actions are actually quite toxic. In relationships, some women will shift the blame solely onto men to make them appear as though they’re angels. This couldn’t be further from the truth.

She’s Not Toxic

This Facebook post that was shared by a supposed ‘nice girl’ seems to suggest that women aren’t toxic, and instead, it was the partner who made her that way so it’s actually their fault. Seems like a massive assumption to make.

Not Giving Up

There’s a fine line between being determined, and being obsessed. In this post, this ‘nice girl’ makes a lot of assumptions about herself, saying that she’s the kindest, most loyal, and most loving soul someone will ever see in their life. Lots of bold claims!

Not Giving Up

She states that she doesn’t give up easily, but only gives up if she feels that she’s the only one putting in the effort. Seems like an easy excuse to pull on someone when a situation doesn’t go the way she wants.

Going Out Hunting

This next post makes it seem like men are always on the hunt for new women, even if they’re already committed to someone. It also seems to suggest that when women are too faithful, their men will get bored. So, women should be unfaithful?

Going Out Hunting

Thankfully, one commenter saw the flaw in this argument and stated that it wasn’t true. There are plenty of ways to keep a relationship exciting without having to rely on being unfaithful to someone else!

Wanting to Be First

Many ‘nice girls’ just cannot comprehend the idea that not every guy wants them, or is even attracted to them in the first place. This conversation took place between two best friends, but thankfully, one was able to see just how toxic this mindset is.

Wanting to Be First

After admitting to writing thousands of letters, this ‘nice girl’ is complaining about why he didn’t pick her. In response, her friend tries to reassure her by saying he’s dating someone else and can’t just dump her. The response from the ‘nice girl’ is quite shocking.

Territorial, Not Jealous

Some ‘nice girls’ say they’ll have a claim on a guy, even if they’ve never dated before. This is an extremely toxic way to be, as some of these girls will even go as far as messaging the girls the guy is currently dating.

Jealous, Not Territorial

This post from a ‘nice girl’ tries to explain this way of thinking, saying that it’s territorial as she’s protecting what’s already hers, rather than jealousy. Hopefully, some of these ‘nice girls’ will grow up from this way of thinking.

Cap Locks Queen

This message was so long, the original poster on Reddit was only able to share a shortened screenshot of this message he had received from a ‘nice girl.’ The worst part? It wasn’t his girlfriend, but rather a girl friend who had become interested in his dating life.

Cap Locks Queen

From the message, you can tell that they had been friends for 22 years, and this girl is complaining that he’s choosing his girlfriend over the friend. She even says that her friend will never be happy until he’s with her!

Resorting to Violence

This next toxic ‘nice girl’ tweet makes you think that she’s going to suggest pouring boiling water on her cheating boyfriend. While thankfully she doesn’t suggest this, she does suggest boiling and reboiling water all day until he goes to bed.

Resorting to Violence

While this is probably a metaphor for letting the anger build up and up before unloading it on him while he’s sleeping, maybe this ‘nice girl’ should invest in some calming tea so that she can communicate and have a conversation about him cheating.

The Only One

Some ‘nice girls’ only want their boyfriends to hang out with them. It’s probably because they either don’t trust his friends, or think he’ll cheat. Regardless, the people in a relationship should be able to trust each other and not become obsessive or possessive.

The Only One

When checking in with her boyfriend, he revealed that he was out with some friends. This girl became instantly angry and accused him of attempting to cheat on her. We hope this interaction gave the boyfriend some clarity so he could dump this girl.

Liar, Liar

It’s important for people to communicate in a relationship so that they know what their partner is feeling or what they’re going through. This specific individual was going through a particularly rough patch and decided that ending his relationship would give him time to focus on other things in his life.

Liar, Liar

However, his girlfriend then accused him of lying and asked him why he didn’t want to be with her, despite him just explaining why. A real ‘nice girl’ would want to help her boyfriend who’s in pain!

Pick Me Girls

‘Pick Me Girls’ are the worst kind of ‘Nice Girls’ out there. ‘Pick Me Girls’ will often be really friendly to another girl’s face but tear her down behind her back just so they receive the male validation they want from guys. The ‘Pick Me’ energy is off the chart in this post.

Pick Me Girls

The post talks about three girls who hang out with the guys at school. The poster state that there are “other better girls with actual personalities” — yikes! Hopefully, this is just a bit of jealousy rearing its head, rather than anything malicious.

It’s the Inside That Counts

A common trait a lot of ‘nice girls’ will have is the belief that they’re owed something just because they’re nice, and also fit the typical beauty standard of being skinny and blonde. This ‘nice girl’ really showed how insecure she was when commenting on this YouTube video.

It’s the Inside That Counts

Having seen that the bride doesn’t fit typical beauty standards, this particular ‘nice girl’ states that she’s insulted because she’s 127 pounds, blonde, pretty, and still happens to be single. However, as the reply states, it’s pretty clear to see why she’s still single with that attitude.